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Has anyone out there participated in those Facebook quizzes designed to provide “insight” into our personalities, our likes, our dislikes, etc.?

For a long time I was able to ignore them.  Then once, in a moment of weakness, I decided to play along. The quizzes are sort of addictive.  Now that I’ve played a few times it’s interesting to see what insightful things FB thinks I should know.

Here’s what I’ve learned so far:

What career should I have had?  Vice President.  Or, on a subsequent try, the result was engineer.  Veep I’ll take.  However if the test was really smart, FB would know that I’ve already given engineering a try and it was not a good fit.

Word that best describes me:  Ambitious.  Yep, that’s me.  When completing our college applications, we had to check a box that indicated how many degrees we planned to obtain.  I instantly checked “Master’s”.  Had no idea why; just sounded ambitious to me so I chose it.  And achieved it.

What’s your Christmas Elf name?  This was not exactly a quiz but it’s funny and embarrassing enough to share.  Sneaky Tinselbottom, that’s me.  Should I get new business cards?  Update the resume?

Your greatest weakness: You Are Too Generous.  Huh?

This last one caused me to stop and think.  I usually think of others as more generous than myself.  While I enjoy sharing and giving it’s not like we have a money tree in the yard.

This quiz was completely wrong.  (As if any of the FB quizzes are scientific and correct.)

Yet the more I thought about it, I realized there was some truth to it. Generosity doesn’t have to be monetary; one can be generous with time and attention.

And according to FB, that is a weakness.

Throughout my career I have worked with some phenomenal individuals who were willing to spend time helping me when I needed to bounce ideas, or to show me a shortcut so I didn’t waste time, or simply to point me in the right direction as opposed to floundering and possibly failing.

These individuals were generous with their time and attention.

This was especially important when I was first starting out, yet it’s still important since every once in a while even the most experienced professional needs assistance – especially when encountering new technology.

Note that these individuals did not do the work for me.  What they provided was time.  Time to listen, to discuss, and in some cases, to teach.  They also provided roadmaps or steps that might be more efficient to get things done and introductions to people that might be good for me to know to complete the project.

When “newbies” arrived at work I found myself providing the same type of assistance.  Not doing the job for them but pointing them in the right direction.

I’ve continued to do this throughout my career, treating people the way I would want to be treated if I needed some assistance.  The gratitude in their eyes says it all.

There have been times when I’ve asked for help and it’s been denied.  That’s hard to swallow, and beyond my comprehension why someone would not take a few minutes to help.

So why is being too generous a weakness? I guess because sometimes I put the needs of others before my own work. I help them first.

That’s a price I’m willing to pay. My work still gets done. And hopefully, the people I’ve helped will remember this time and pay it forward by helping someone else.

Or by helping me if I need it.  Even seasoned executives can use assistance now and then.

Own Your Weaknesses

MP900385502[1] We talk a lot about knowing your strengths but no one likes to talk about owning your weaknesses. So I’m going to let you in on one of my weaknesses. Housekeeping is not my strong suit. You’d think with just two adults and a dog, our house would stay relatively clean. Think again. There are many reasons why we have a housekeeping issue. Notice how I transitioned this from a “me” problem to a “we” problem.  I think Hubby should own some of this; I’m staring at a stack of his architectural magazines at least a foot high. Some of you may not consider this a weakness, just “life”. But to a perfectionist like me, it’s definitely a weakness. Years ago Hubby recognized this weakness and convinced me to hire a housekeeping service. Best. Decision. Ever. When the lay-offs hit we cut back everywhere but figured out a way to maintain housekeeping once a month. I honestly think I would go without eating before I would go without housekeeping. Let’s take a look at this weakness that keeps our house from looking pristine. Our lovely dog-daughter is a shedder. That’s right; I’m going to blame some of this on the dog. I’m sure those of you with kids would blame them for poor housekeeping; since the dog is our daughter this makes sense. Each time we brush her there’s enough fur to make one large dog.   Her accessories, which are full of her hair that require cleaning, include two custom beds, a crate, assorted towels, and a large mat where she lays to look out the back window.   Her collection of 80+ stuffed toys is kept in two large baskets – also full of hair. Clearly some fault is hers. She wags her tail as if to say, “Whatever”. People like us too much. We must be super-popular because we are inundated with mail. Each day I stand over the recycle bin to throw out the obvious junk. The rest – bills, Hubby’s work-related mail that looks important, and magazines – gets stacked on the counter for review at a later date. I’m considering making the stack into a sculpture so it’s less offensive. Meet our obnoxious friend, Clutter. Clutter follows us, like a shadow. I’ve read countless articles about organization, bought tons of cute storage bins, cleaned out our files and more. Yet somehow clutter magically appears again.  My cute storage bins are bursting at the seams, the file drawers won’t shut and both of our desks hold stacks of miscellaneous papers. Houston, we have a problem. We’re sentimental fools. Hubby and I are pretty good about purging our closets of clothing that we don’t wear or no longer fits. We used to be even better. When the lay-offs hit, we started getting “clingy” with our clothing, worried that we might not have the funds to replace items that were tossed. Plus I’m totally sentimental about some things: I still have the outfits Hubby and I wore on our first date; I’ve got some of my dad’s ties; and my first set of luggage in an ugly plaid fabric my parents bought me when I left for college. Seriously, plaid luggage. What I am doing with that? When it comes to cleaning we are champion procrastinators. Hard to admit but it’s true. It’s easy for us to put off cleaning when we’ve got 80 shows on the DVR to watch. Funny that procrastinating only affects us in this area.  We are great at prioritizing almost everything else: family, work, groceries, exercising, etc. Just don’t hand us a dust rag; we will drop it like a hot potato. I seriously dislike housekeeping. Really. I mean it. Friends have tried to tell me about the satisfaction; the “high” they experience from cleaning. Nope, not me. There is not one miniscule part of me that enjoys it. I do, however, feel great walking into a clean house. That someone else has cleaned. The cure? I don’t know if there is one.  We’ve tried all sort of remedies and my storage bin budget is tapped, folks. I’m aware that this is a #firstworldproblem, for sure. It’s time to own my weaknesses and figure out how to work with them, not against them. Do you hear that noise? It’s cheering from our housekeeping service; they now know Hubby and I are life-long customers. And I’m okay with that.